baby J

You ARE…


The pressure we face as mothers is undeniably huge…there are thousands upon thousands of blogs, magazines, shows, gurus and books dedicated solely to navigating the extremely deep waters mothers find themselves swimming about in, placed there by society and themselves.
Trust me – I’ve looked. 
To be not only mother, but to be wife is a big job in itself. Add on top of that those mothers who work full time or part time; mothers who do the family finances; cook and clean and show up to every music class and swimming lesson and playgroup there is. Mothers who serve in church communities; mothers of multiples; mothers who care for elderly family members and mothers who are doing it solo. 
The pressure to BE something screams like a banshee in a megaphone…BE more on time. BE available to your friends. BE showered and dressed. BE your before-baby weight. BE present at events even if you’ve had 2 hours sleep and your kids nose is running like the Nile. BE a beautiful homemaker and don’t forget to post it on social media while you’re at it. BE BE BE. 
So stop for a moment, coz I’d like to call out all us mothers who are drowning in the sea of Trying To Be. I’m calling you out and saying YOU ALREADY ARE. Mama, you already ARE on time. Your kid eats and sleeps – you’re already on time for them. You already ARE available to friends, but the ones who know that availability might be via a text, are the ones who deserve it. You already ARE dressed – trackies and a jumper are just as much clothing as Kim Kardashian’s skin coloured bandage dress…possibly more so. You already ARE the right weight for where you are in life. There’s nothing wrong with working towards a goal weight post-baby, but never forget the insanely incredible feat your body was intricately designed to do in carrying a human out into the world. You already ARE present. Present where it counts – at the edge of the cot when bub wakes, at the counter cutting up fruit and at the playground pushing your kid as high as they want to go. You already ARE a homemaker because your family unit – whatever that looks like – IS a home.
Mama, I’m talking to you. I’m talking to myself. I’m talking to all the mothers who feel like they’re drowning in the sea of pressure to constantly BE something to so many … STOP! Stop and look at your baby, your 2 year old, your pre-schooler, your teenager and really LOOK. Are they judging you? Are they determining your value and worth? Are they deciding whether you’re enough of a woman to be their mother? No. Because you ARE their mother. You. Already. ARE.
“Come to me, all of you who are tired and have heavy loads, and I will give you rest. Accept my teachings and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in spirit, and you will find rest for your lives. The burden that I ask you to accept is easy; the load I give you to carry is light.” <Matt 11:28-30>