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Dear me…


Dear Me,
I’m future you! Fancy that. I want to tell you a few things that these years have shown me and taught me…they won’t change you in the past, but they can help you as the years roll on.

You are beautiful. You already are. You actually always were and it bums me out that you never accepted that. Your clothing size – doesn’t matter. Your university qualifications – not where you find your worth. Your job – not what makes you who you are. Having said all that, I want you to know that being a mother also doesn’t define you…you will love your new role as Little E’s mum and you will learn crazy-amounts about yourself, your husband, your family and your friendships…but it doesn’t make you who you are.

Dear past-me…enjoy life where you are because this version of you and the things you’re doing won’t exist soon. God is shaping and changing you with each new experience. Learn to love the you that you are today and lean in to the changes and the challenges. Don’t try so hard to cling to the past, to the things that you used to know…they served you well and were important for a time, but God is leading you down paths that you can’t even imagine! Adventures await, and if you hold on too tightly, you’ll miss them.

Don’t get so caught up in people-pleasing, following the crowd, doing things you think people expect you to do and trying to fit in…future you knows that those things don’t matter! Future you knows that your time and heart will be too full of better things to worry about the trivial. Stand out! Stand out and stand up – be an example to the daughter who is watching you so intently.

Don’t compare your journey with those around you…there isn’t another you and there isn’t a story the same – so why bother? Focus on where God is taking you, your family, your world and go there! Look up, look forward…

Read more.
Watch less.
Cook more.
Walk more.
Try new things.
Say ‘I love you’ all the time.
Hug more.
High five more.
Laugh more and be silly more…what do you have to lose?

That saying ‘dance like no one is watching’…? Yeh, actually do that, would you? Dance with Little E because one day, she’ll probably ask you to drop her off a block from her friend’s house and give you a nod while her headphones are glued to her ears instead.

Past-me, I liked you. But future-you will be even better because of Who created you. Who you are comes from Someone greater, so you know it’s good! Past-me, I hope you know I appreciate what you did for future-me…you’ve helped me as the years have rolled on.

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Shallow Hal


Have you seen this movie? I watched it again recently and I remembered how much I loved it the second I hit ‘play’! There is so many great lessons, observations and truths in this movie that I just wanted to share.

If you’ve seen this movie, you’ll know that Jack Black’s character is basically a superficial jerk when it comes to women – he sees only what is on the outside and judges the women based on what he thinks is beautiful. Then he gets ‘hypnotised’ and sees more of what’s on the inside of women he meets – their inner beauty outshines anything on the outside that he would have previously turned his nose up at.

He meets Gwyneth Paltrow’s character – he sees her as a trim, leggy, stunning young woman and soon falls in love with her…but his image of her comes crashing down when his ‘hypnotism’ wears off and he sees her as the world sees her.

This movie is such a great portrayal of all the issues of ‘image’ and ‘identity’ that we face in the world. We are oftentimes unconsciously trained to judge a book by its cover – what is she wearing, what is she eating, how often does she exercise, where did she get that haircut? It’s always outward focused, that we forget the outside is merely the beginning. The story of who a person really is goes so much deeper than what we see at face value.


I love when Jack Black learns this lesson. He loves Gwyneth Paltrow regardless of what society says is ‘beautiful’ – in his eyes now, she is the definition of beautiful because he knows her, he doesn’t just see her.

This movie was a great reminder for me to make sure that I am knowing those around me, not just seeing them. That I make the effort to connect on a heart & mind level – to know what makes people tick rather than writing them off and being judgemental on what I see on the outside.

But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”

1 Sam. 16:7

Have you ever disregarded someone based on what you see of them, rather than getting to know them?